
The Old Baptist Ponders the Defense of Marriage with Dan Bagby
In the days after the voter approval of the amendment to the Virginia state constitution which strictly defined marriage as a legal arrangement between one man and one woman, the following letter to the editor appeared in the "Religious Herald," the newsjournal of the Baptist General Association of Virginia:
"I view with curiosity and bewilderment an amendment 'to protect the institution of marriage' in the Commonwealth. As a former pastor of 26 years, a current professor of marriage and family life at Baptist Theological Seminary at Richmond, as a board member of the national Marriage Builders Coalition (an organization whose members hold a covenant to preside at weddings only after pre-marital counseling has taken place) and as a Baptist who is usually speaking twice a week in some Baptist church, I am aware that: (a) most Baptist pastors offer no premarital care or counseling to their parishioners; (b) very few Baptist churches require any kind of pre-marital counseling; and (c) most parishioners with whom I am acquainted have no interest in receiving pre-marital counseling (I wrote a book on the subject for pastors)."
"If we are serious about 'protecting marriage' as God intended, why doesn't someone offer an amendment that would prohibit divorce? That would scare a few more people from taking marriage lightly."
"Or, perhaps, offer an amendment that prohibits remarriage? Since both of these are 'God's intention,' why are we not espousing them as state laws to be enforced in Virginia?"
Daniel G. Bagby, Richmond
Besides being shamelessly self-promoting, Dan Bagby's letter is intentionally provocative and his feigned incredulity veils an animosity toward a strict enforcement of the biblical definition of marriage. Among professional confidants and former students, Bagby is known for his support of the mainstreaming of the homosexual lifestyle within both the church and society. During my years at BTSR, I was taught that a long-term, monogamous homosexual relationship should be embraced by the church as emotionally/spiritually healthy, as well as being God-honoring; to quote Professor Bagby, "I have encountered quite a few homosexual relationships which were vastly superior to most of their heterosexual counterparts." For Dan Bagby, as well as an alarmingly sizeable constituency of his fellow BTSR faculty members, homosexuality is not a sin to be condemned, but simply a natural sexual preference to be celebrated.
The foregoing criticisms notwithstanding, I do agree with Professor Bagby's implied assertion that heterosexuals bear the lion's share of the guilt for the damage done to the institution of marriage in the West. It is heterosexual fornication and adultery, along with the advent of the so-called "no-fault" divorce and serial remarriage, that has weakened the institution to the point that it is barely relevant in much of our society. According to 2005 statistics, 37% of children born that year were born out of wedlock; that's 37 out of 100 children who were without the provision and protection of a mother and a father who were in a committed, covenant relationship at the time of their births. Dan Bagby is absolutely correct about one thing: if Christians are truly serious about protecting the definition of marriage, then they should first strive to protect the dignity of marriage.
Grace and peace.

